Teen Talk Tuesdays ~ Creative Ways To Find Common Ground

Parents can be wrong.  Yes, I did just say that and I mean it.

It is not always easy for parents to admit when we have been wrong.   However, whether we have accidentally hurt  our child’s feelings or blatantly messed up, it is important for parents to say “I’m sorry.”  If we were wrong then we must admit it.

A year or so ago the Eldest SON, who is fifteen, and I had a disagreement.  It was pretty huge over something that seemed not to be a huge deal, but it became one.  After trying for at least an hour to come to some common ground we just couldn’t.  Everything I said upset him and everything he said upset me too.  So we agreed to not talk any more and go to bed.  I went to my room to rest. I couldn’t.  I tossed and turned and tossed and turned.

It was then that I decided to TEXT him … Yes, we are less than three rooms and 60 feet away from one another but yet miles apart when it came to hearing each other’s point of view.   Unfortunately, good old regular communication was not working so I decided to speak his language.

So I texted him.  I met him where he was and used the written word to try to come to some common ground.

The text started with short sentences at first to open the lines of communication.  The words “I am sorry” and “I love you” were certainly included in the text.  He sent a response and a few more and he also said he was sorry.  But he also voiced his frustration and so did I.  Then I said again, I love you.

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For communication to occur the lines have to open and so do our hearts.  We must also have a desire to forge a strong healthy relationship with our children, tweens, teens and young adults.  However possible we must be willing to do it.  But that also means we must be willing to do what it takes to forge that relationship.    Words like, “I hear you,” “I am sorry,”  “I am on your side,” “I am your advocate,”  Will you forgive me” and most important of all  “I will always love you”   are critical to building that kind of relationship that will endure over time.  These are key words to building a strong healthy relationship with our kids no matter if they are 2 or 52.

So yes, I know texting might seem a bit crazy to some, especially to a generation who never heard of it until 10 years ago But I will say I have never loved texting more as I did that night with the eldest SON.  If texting can bring about restoration and a precious relationship to me, then I am all for it.  But the most important thing I learned is that sometimes we have to meet people where they are, rather than always expecting them to meet us where we are.

I hope this blog will create some important dialogue between you and your precious tweens and teens.

Be blessed and encouraged as you fulfill your dreams and live life in your passion and purpose and learn to communicate.